My dear reader, welcome back to our series on wealth. Last week, we learned about wealth distractor; worry. We mentioned that worry originates from an old English word called, “Strangle”. Strangle means to squeeze or constrict the neck of a person or animal, especially to cause death. Indeed, this tells a lot about what worry entails. According to Jim Rohn, “worry informs us that the elevator only goes one-way: down.” When we get worried particularly for over a long haul, we get choked with bitterness, anger, pain, stress and only see the negative aspect of a situation, others or ourselves. Today, we shall continue with the wealth distractor.
When you look straight at the mirror, who do you see, do you see a horror or an angel? When left alone to walk in darkness with little light, do you easily get attracted by the darkness? Does the wind that blows when left alone become a pleasant air or a weird visitor? I guess you know the road I’m heading towards: I simply want to address briefly one of the wealth major distractors; fear.
Fear, I refer to it as the false ear. Oh Yes, the false ear. That which deceives you completely about the information it feeds. Yes, its information may be partially true, but it is never fully true. It always amplifies the little ugly side of a situation. It diverts attention with a coded bad intention which ends up leaving you with hypertension. Oh, fear, the old deceiver of mankind that makes the affected sees nothing but that which it compelled the individual to imagine.
Some call it false expectations appearing real. But in my writing, I just realized another twist of it; Forced expectations appearing real. Thus, fear when it embraces any individual will force the person to have certain imaginations and expectations that are far away from reality. The individual unconsciously keeps feeding the forced imaginations until it gets satisfied and metamorphoses into reality.
Lisa Fritscher, the writer of Psychology behind Fear, mentioned that “Fear is a powerful and primitive human emotion. It alerts us to the presence of danger, and it was critical in keeping our ancestors alive[i]” Of a truth, fear resurrects ancestors [things that are far away from us, sleeping dogs that needs to be allowed to lie and negative or evil forces that might have never thought of coming our way]
According to research done by the University of Minnesota, “once the fear pathways are ramped up, the brain short-circuits more rational processing paths and reacts immediately to signals from the amygdala. When in this overactive state, the brain perceives events as negative and remembers them that way[ii].”Fear can be very destructive, distort an individual’s emotions, and compel its victim to dance to its tune.
To handle the distractive company of fear, here are some guidelines.
Fear your Fear: The experience of Job, one of the world’s wealthiest man that ever lived, tells a lot about this point. For he once said, “For the thing which I greatly feared is come upon me, and that which I was afraid of is come unto me[iii].” Instead of feeding your fear [adding faith to your fear], we should fear it [give it less attention].
Undress your fear: Fear needs to be addressed, yes but you better undress it than to add dress to it. This is my point: identify your fear and try to face it as early as possible. A lingering fear can be very dangerous because it will often keep its victim in unhealthy suspense. Ralph Waldo Emerson, an American philosopher and poet says it this way: “Do the thing you fear and the death of fear is certain.”
Trade fear for faith: One of the best bargain or negotiation, I believe any individual can have is to trade fear for faith. The songwriter, Darrell Patton Evans writes in this intro lyrics in his song:
I’m trading my sorrow
I’m trading my shame
I’m laying it down for the joy of the Lord.
Thus, he was willing to exchange his sorrow and shame for something better. Hence, instead of keeping our fears, we should rather release them to the Almighty God. We need to identify our fears, clearly mention them and release them unto God. If we entrust our fears to His care, then we should give ourselves the liberty to worry less.
In conclusion, off course these are not exhaustive but I believe they will help ensure that our lives are shaped better when it comes to dealing with our wealth distractor; fear. Thank you for your time. Stay tuned!!
GOD LOVES YOU AND ALWAYS WANT THE BEST FOR YOU
[iii] Job 3:25