My dear reader, welcome back to our series on wealth. The last time, we learned about Secrets of Wealth IV (The attitude of thanksgiving). We learned that Gratitude is an attitude that has the potential to elevate anyone to a higher altitude. Be always thankful and the faithful God will ensure you have everything you need in full. Be a grateful person and your life will always be filled with great things”
Today we shall look at another secret of wealth, which is focusing on our strengths.
We live in a world of two main sides; good or bad, positive or negative, strength or weakness. Each of these sides plays a major role in our lives and always demands our attention. But it is sad to mention that mostly either unconsciously or consciously a lot of attention is given to the downside of our life or situation. When you hear “breaking news”, what comes to mind; good or bad news? I guess you said, bad. That’s the extent to which negativity has corrupted the mind of mankind.
One of the things, I believe feeds negative situation and makes it spread or multiply easily is that people give it more attention. What’s your focus? Do you usually focus on your strengths or weaknesses? If I should ask you to give me an inventory of both your strengths and weaknesses, which one will top the list? Mostly, we spend extensive time analyzing our weakness and failures or that of others. We search for all the reasons that made us fail, the mistakes made, the people to blame, and so on. These things drain us emotionally, physically, socially and spiritually. The result is often the same; the guilty feeling, the not enough feeling, the wastage of a lot of quality time, energy, poor relations with ourselves and others, yet, we still give them much attention. If we really want to live the better life we expect then, we need to focus on our strengths.
The science of focus is that whatever you give your focus is always likely to multiply. It’s not surprising the scriptures encourage the weak not to focus on their weakness: “…let the weak say, I am strong.[i]” And so, whether with ourselves or in any kind of relationship, whenever things get bad, instead of blaming and focusing on the weakness, we should spend time to think about the strengths, acknowledge and appreciate them. That will change the situation faster than focusing on the weakness. Wait! I’m not saying don’t admit your mistakes, my point is, your mistakes shouldn’t be your focus. There are a lot of things, you or the other persons are good at, focus on that and give the other (mistakes or problems) less attention.
Focusing on your strengths gives you power over your weakness. According to Martin Seligman, the father of Positive Psychology, “For a person to be truly happy and live a meaningful life, that person must recognize their personal strengths and use these strengths for the greater good.[ii]” What are you good at; the very things that fuel your happiness whenever you do them? Give them your attention.
No-one is perfect, and no-one will be. Everyone makes some glaring mistakes at a point in time. But to be known for anything remarkable, you have to direct your focus; give attention to your strengths. If you seek to be wealthy in any facet of your life, then, focus on the good side (strengths). Identify your strengths and make them your good friends, that’s one of wealth’s secret.
GOD LOVES YOU AND ALWAYS WANT THE BEST FOR YOU
[i] Joel 3:10