If you are doing the right things, you become more optimistic about the end results but if it’s somehow right or wrong then unless by, Divine timely assistance, one may be tempted to find a way to push him/herself through or commit certain mistakes.
Let’s consider this quote,
“If you do well, will you not be accepted? And if you do not do well, sin lies at the door. And its desire is for you, but you should rule over it.”Genesis 4:7 NKJV.
After the offering of the two brothers; Cain and Abel, Cain’s offering was rejected but Abel’s offering was accepted. Cain became very offended and angry with his brother. During such state, God asked Cain this question, “If you do well, will you not be accepted?” Let’s be frank to ourselves, there are many situations we face in life, it’s because of our mistakes for if we had done the right things such situations might not happen. But in such conditions, what do we do? Just like Cain, we blame others and become very furious with the system.
This kind of behavior is what Psychologist like Sigmund Freud, refers to as Psychological projection. Thus, it’s when an individual/ group projects undesirable feelings or emotions onto someone else, rather than admitting to or dealing with the unwanted feelings. This is the exact thing Cain did, instead of taking responsibility for his wrong/ inappropriate offering, he falsely blamed Abel for something he, Abel, never did.
The chief reason for psychological projection is for self-defense but the effects thereof can be very harmful. Let’s consider what God further told Cain. He said, “And if you do not do well, sin lies at the door. And its desire is for you”. Whenever we don’t properly follow a law or do things in the right way, it doesn’t only bring about psychological projection but it as well open us to several other temptations such as bitterness, envy, and a host of negative thoughts.
In fact, there are numerous sins that await us whenever we fail in doing what we’re expected to do. One mistake (error) is the open-gate for another. But as God admonished Cain, “but you should rule over it”. The reality is that sometimes the desire to sin (particularly to blame others and think evil of them) can become so strong that it only takes total surrender of such emotions to God before one can entirely deal with it. To Cain, he wasn’t able to contain it but fell prey to the bait of sin. For myself, I have equally fallen to the bait of sin on some occasion maybe you’re very pious but today we’re encouraging ourselves with these words, “We should rule over the desire to sin”.
For the case of Cain, he eventually killed his own innocent brother. Remember, the sin of murder begun with wrong/ inappropriate offering (act) which can be classified as a “baby”, later on it became the child called, “desire”, grew into the “teenager”, blaming, developed into the “adult” bitterness and hatred finally matured as killing.
Whenever you easily seem to be blaming others for something that went wrong in your life (Psychological Projection), kindly first seek to find out what you probably did wrong and also do your possible best to take responsibility. Either than that the end results might be very deadly.
Finally, we should pray to God for the strength to take-up responsibility, the grace not to commit such mistakes and the wisdom to know how best we can relate with those whom we’re tempted to blame. For God through His Holy Spirit is always willing and ready to assist.